How much of your marital advice is coming from friends, particularly un-married friends? How many people know or give their opinion about your marital business?
If we are honest with ourselves at one time or another in our lives, we may have been guilty of letting too much of our marital business get out through our own mouths. That has invited a lot of opinions and advice. Marriage is a sacred covenant. It should never be taken lightly. When you have questions about how to, if you should, or what to do with your marriage it is as sensitive as an open-heart surgery. You must remember two people have become one flesh in the eyes of God and some issues even in the eyes of the law. Would you allow a friend to perform or aid in performing open-heart surgery if they are not even a nurse, much less a surgeon? The situation is just that critical. It doesn’t matter how big or small the issue it can be life threatening to operate or make a move without the advice of someone who is well suited and equipped to handle the sensitivity of the matter.
In search for answers I have been guilty of inviting advice. I basically ended up being more confused than when I started. What I have found is that not everyone is speaking from experience. I always find it captivating how many people, without using the word and giving Godly reference, have advice about something they have never faced. Most times (especially women) speak from emotion; and often your advice may be coming from someone who really loves you and wants what they feel is the best for you. Or what about the notorious, “if I were you I would….”. Be very cautious of all advice but especially the “if I were you,” type. I strongly believe you really don’t know how you would handle a situation until that time comes. It’s easy to plan and prepare mentally for something but until that moment happens, it’s all a question of what will you really do?
The Bible says, Psalms 15:22, plans lack, or fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Psalms 1 says, blessed is the man who walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly. When I read this scripture, this thought also came to mind, blessed is the man who walketh not in counsel that is not Godly. Now hear me well, I’m not saying the scripture says this, but I make mention of this because often we have people who claim to be Godly but are not always giving Godly council. That’s why with all counsel you have to get to know God and what he says about your marriage. Get to know what His perfect will is for marriage. Understand that there is nothing impossible for God. As a matter of fact, he specializes in things that seem impossible.
Remember the famous acronym WWJD? Everyone wore the silicone bracelets with the acronym to keep you reminded throughout the day to consider in all situations what would Jesus do? We should go back to this. Especially when it comes to your marriage.
Is it possible if we considered WWJD there would be less divorce and separation? Try surrounding yourself with people who are sprit led, spirit fed, married, and wants your marriage as well as theirs to survive; and always consider WWJD!